Today is Brigid’s 16th birthday!
It is hard to believe that just four months ago this happened:
Brigid was in the back seat behind the driver.
Here you can see her car door stuck to the grill of the car that hit them.
We were in the hospital for 10 days.
Brigid in her bed, hooked up to tubes and monitors, being poked and prodded.
After five days, the pain was so great and the healing so limited that they operated on her and put in a plate to stabilize her pelvis and six screws to hold it in place.
Last week I took Brigid to a see a counselor, believing that any teenager who had been through such a trauma and had her life changed so drastically (missing months of school, not dancing anymore, etc.), might need to work through some of it. Jan, the therapist who I trust and respect, met with me and Brigid for a few and then I left and she and Brigid talked. I came back at the end to be told “Brigid is profoundly resilient.” Jan credits me with staying by her side throughout, the fact that Brigid has no memory of the accident, Brigid knows and accepts that she is deeply loved by family and friends, and Brigid is Brigid. Profoundly resilient.
Yesterday we went to lunch and birthday shopping.
I went for a walk in the woods early this morning and thought about Brigid and her 16th birthday. At one point, I was overcome with emotion and gratitude; grateful to God for blessing us with Brigid back in 1999 and again for watching over her the night of the crash in April.
Brigid, I wish for you a long life filled with love for family and friends, quiet kindnesses and raucous celebrations.
Happy Birthday my sweet girl and many many many many more.